6 Action Steps for Workaholics

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A workaholic is uncontrollably addicted to work to the detriment of self and others.

“Workaholism” has become an all-consuming obsession for too many modern workers, a sleep-depriving, health-robbing, greed-festering monster that may be the most rewarded—and least challenged—addiction in America.

While God created work as a meaningful part of this life, for some, work becomes the primary avenue by which they find approval, respect, and success. God calls on humankind to work honestly, heartily, happily, and as though we are working for the Lord (Exod. 23: 12; Eccles. 5: 19; Col. 3: 23).

This issue is not limited to men and women in the workplace. It can also include women at home who are striving to have the “perfect”home and family. Workaholism is an addiction and needs to be treated like one.

Work life must be managed within the context of a healthy relation to God, marriage, and family life, and commitments to church and community. When this balance is not held, work can become an idol, a terrible taskmaster known as “workaholism.”

“The workaholic maintains a frantic schedule. He is consistently preoccupied with performance. He finds it difficult to refuse additional responsibilities. He is unable to relax. If someone you know exhibits these characteristics, he or she is probably a workaholic.” – Bill Hybels

ACTIONS STEPS

1. Assess the Problem

What is causing the stress you feel at work? You must recognize the problem and own it.

Workaholism is an addiction and needs to be treated as such.

2. Evaluate the Past

Identify negative messages you received about self-worth from your parents, siblings, and/ or peers.

Your significance is provided through Christ, not through work.

3. Refocus on God

Take time for daily prayer, Scripture reading, and meditation. Seek God’s guidance in deciding on the activities for the day.

Read and meditate on the Scriptures that address God’s unconditional love and your identity as a follower of Jesus Christ.

4. Find Balance

Evaluate the activities in your weekly schedule and assess which involvements are unnecessary and are contributing to the addiction to activity.
There needs to be a balance between time spent at work and time spent in close relationships.

Work must be maintained in proper relation to God and to family. When this balance is not in place, work can become an idol—a false god that is a terrible taskmaster.

You will need to “schedule” times for leisure and play. Make sure you treat these times as priorities. Also, remember to honor the Sabbath as a day of rest.

5. Slow Down

Establish a slower pace for each day and to seek rest. Be sure to honor the body that God has given you by getting sufficient rest and exercise and by eating a nutritionally balanced diet.

Explore ways you can include enjoyable activities in your schedule—especially family time.

Change takes time, and as you try to slow down, God will take care of the things that concern you (Matt. 6: 25–34).

6. Get Support

Seek help from a counselor, accountability partner, or group where the focus is on coming to terms with the underlying motivations for the addiction to work.

Encouragement for Parents

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Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him. Proverbs 22: 15

God placed certain people in leadership roles over children and named them parents. God has ordained parents to be the leaders in the home.

Children need both a mother and father. Unfortunately, fathers are often physically or emotionally absent. It is estimated that 40 percent of American children are being raised in homes where no father is present. These children have more physical, emotional, and behavioral problems than children whose father is present, and it is more likely that they will be incarcerated.

Raising children is a high calling that God has given to parents. We must not take this position lightly.

We must recognize that as a parent, we have been given authority over our children. In other words, we have been handpicked by God Himself to assume the leadership role in the raising of our children.

Dr. James Dobson says that our role as a parent is to work ourselves out of a job. While we never really stop being a parent, our role changes as our children grow and mature. Ultimately our role becomes less and less active and we serve more as an advisor or friend to our adult children.

Just as bread needs yeast to rise, children need certain ingredients to reach the potential that God has placed in them. Three of these ingredients are love, discipline, and guidance. While the ingredients will be required at all stages of parenting, the actual amount of each required at various stages in the parenting process will depend on the age and maturity level of the child.

1. LOVE

Children need hugs, physical contact, words of encouragement and affirmation, and quality time—all of these communicate love. Love also helps break down barriers and walls that we can’t see with our eyes.

Keep in mind that adolescent children are very aware of appearances and may not want to be hugged in front of peers.

Sometimes, especially in adolescence, our children can feel like our enemies, but in reality they are simply learning how to think and act on their own. A certain amount of rebellion is normal.

As a parent, you are to love your children even when it is undeserved. That doesn’t mean you accept everything they do. Love and acceptance are not synonymous. It does mean that you remind them that you love them even when you disagree with or are heartbroken by their actions.

2. DISCIPLINE

The Bible cautions fathers not to discourage their children (Col. 3: 21), but it also says that those who love their children are careful to discipline them (Prov. 13: 24). Discipline, unlike punishment, always envisions a better future for the child.

Balance is the key. As a parent, you must discipline and train your children, but you should not discipline as though you are running a boot camp.

Too many parents try to reason with their youngsters instead of simply delivering on the consequences that were threatened. If you say the child must go to his room if he “does that one more time,” and he does it again, you must follow through with exactly what you said.

Consistency is king. The actual consequence is less important than the consistency of having consequences when children misbehave.

There are three rules that may help to serve as guides in disciplining your children.

–The KFC Rule: KFC stands for kind, firm, and consistent.

–Granny’s Rule: This simply means that, first, the child does what the parent wants and then the child gets to do what he or she wants. For instance, the parent might say, “If you want to go swimming, then first you must do these chores.”

–The Millennial Rule: This simply means that if you allow your child to get away with something, it may take a thousand times of correction to retrain him.

3. GUIDANCE

As a parent, it is in your job description to teach your children about life, guiding them in all areas, especially in God’s Word (Deut. 6: 4–9).

Guiding your children may also mean allowing them to make mistakes. When a mistake is made and the principal or police officer calls to inform you of the situation, understand that as the parent you are about to walk through a crisis with your child. Be prepared to be disappointed with some of your child’s choices and behaviors. Do not make the mistake of too readily helping your child get out of difficulties he or she is experiencing because of his or her choices and behaviors. More growth takes place through a crisis than at any other time.

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Psalm 127: 3

For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition which I asked of Him. Therefore I also have lent him to the Lord; as long as he lives he shall be lent to the Lord. So they worshiped the Lord there. 1 Samuel 1: 27–28

Parenting is demanding and rewarding. Many people prepare and study for years to enter a chosen profession, but for parenting we usually receive on-the-job training. The goal of parenting is to let the children go eventually; to work yourself out of a job; to raise your children to be independent.

You’re not alone.  Seek the Lord’s wisdom and counsel in parenting your children. He is there and ready to assist you.

What’s worse? Taxes, dental visit or health insurance?

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What’s worse? Taxes, a dental visit or health insurance? Survey finds Americans really hate shopping for health insurance!

Everyone knows shopping for health insurance isn’t fun, but it’s not as bad as doing your own taxes, right? Wrong. A recent Bankrate survey found that Americans hate shopping for health insurance. Make that really hate shopping for health insurance. They hate it so much that 75 percent of survey participants said comparing health plans is as bad as or worse than doing their own taxes.

Contact me for information about any of your insurance needs (i.e. life, health, dental, vision, home, auto, supplemental, medicare, or commercial insurance.)

Yep, shopping for insurance is apparently beyond awful. It’s so awful that 73 percent of participants said it’s as bad as or worse than being stuffed in the middle seat of an airplane, while 64 percent said it’s as bad as or worse than having a tooth filled. Read more…

Better Hurry – Open Enrollment Ends February 15th

ACA-open-enrollNeed health insurance? Better hurry! Open enrollment ends February 15th!

There’s still time to enroll in a plan for 2015 that meets your needs and budget. Your coverage can start on March 1. There are many health care options for you. Contact me if you need assistance.

What’s covered in the Affordable Care Act (ACA) Plans:

These essential health benefits include at least the following items and services:

  1. Outpatient care—the kind you get without being admitted to a hospital
  2. Trips to the emergency room
  3. Treatment in the hospital for inpatient care
  4. Care before and after your baby is born
  5. Mental health and substance use disorder services: This includes behavioral health treatment, counseling, and psychotherapy
  6. Your prescription drugs
  7. Services and devices to help you recover if you are injured, or have a disability or chronic condition. This includes physical and occupational therapy, speech-language pathology, psychiatric rehabilitation, and more.
  8. Your lab tests
  9. Preventive services including counseling, screenings, and vaccines to keep you healthy and care for managing a chronic disease.
  10. Pediatric services: This includes dental care and vision care for kids

There’s Still Time To Get Health Insurance Coverage for 2015

Exchanges_Open_Enrollment2015-01Need health care coverage for 2015? There’s still time to enroll in a plan for 2015 that meets your needs and budget. Your coverage can start on February 1 or March 1, depending on when you enroll. Open Enrollment ends on February 15, 2015. There are many health care options for you. Contact me if you need assistance.

Do You Qualify for Help Paying Your Health Insurance?

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Did you miss out on getting help paying for your health plan?

Many individuals and families are eligible for financial assistance that lowers the cost of your plan. Are you one of them? See what you could SAVE by taking a few minutes to use this subsidy estimator.

Need help choosing the right health insurance plan for you and your family? Need assistance with the subsidy estimator? If so, contact me and I will walk you step-by-step through the process and explain the options available for you.

What is a subsidy?

A subsidy is a kind of assistance that helps you pay for something – in this case, health coverage. You can use the subsidy estimator to find out if you may be eligible for financial assistance from the government that helps lower the cost of your health plan. You only need to tell us four things:

  1. The number of adults that will be insured by your plan and their ages.
  2. The number of household members age 20 and younger that will be insured by your plan.
  3. Your household income.
  4. The county you live in.

Knowing if you’ll get a subsidy can make a difference in how you choose individual health insurance. It’s just like shopping for anything else. You have more options when you know you’ll be saving money.

Need help choosing the right health insurance plan for you and your family? Need assistance with the subsidy estimator? If so, contact me and I will walk you step-by-step through the process and explain the options available for you.

2015 HEALTHCARE OPEN ENROLLMENT

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The Open Enrollment period for 2015 coverage is November 15, 2014 to February 15, 2015.

If you haven’t enrolled in 2015 coverage by February 15, you generally can’t buy Marketplace health coverage for 2015 unless you qualify for a Special Enrollment Period.

Deadlines if you have 2014 coverage

2015 enrollment and coverage start dates

During 2015 Open Enrollment, if you enroll or change plans:

  • Between the 1st and 15th days of the month, your coverage starts the first day of the next month.
  • Between the 16th and the last day of the month, your coverage starts the first day of the second following month. So if you enroll on January 16, your coverage starts on March 1.
  • Between February 1, 2015 and the deadline of February 15, 2015, your 2015 coverage begins March 1, 2015.

You can enroll in Medicaid or the Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP) any time.

If you own or operate a small business, you can start offering coverage to your employees any time. Contact me for a FREE GROUP QUOTE!

If you don’t enroll in 2015 coverage

If you don’t have health coverage during 2015, you may have to pay a penalty. The fee in 2015 is higher than it was for 2014 — 2% of your income or $325 per adult/$162.50 per child, whichever is more.

If you need assistance with your healthcare coverage, contact me, I can help!

Open Enrollment for 2015 Health Insurance Plans

ACAHey guys, open enrollment period for 2015 health insurance plans runs from November 15, 2014 thru February 15, 2015. During this time you can enroll in a qualified health plan regardless of your current health condition. I realize there is a tremendous amount of confusion concerning the Affordable Care Act. That’s why I’m here to help. I’ll be more than glad to sit down with you to discuss your current health coverage situation; then research what options are best for you and your family. Email or call me at 618.581.1391 to set up an appointment.

Words Every Leader Must Know

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Every leader needs to understand these most important words:

The six most important words: “I admit I made a mistake.”

The five most important words: “You did a good job.”

The four most important words: “What is your opinion?”

The three most important words: “If you please.”

The two most important words: “Thank you.”

The one most important word: “We”

The least important word: “I”